But steering you away from it doesn’t afford you the opportunity to learn about it and learn WHY you should steer away from it. And frankly, not many people know enough about it to really know why it’s a bad deal. They don’t know enough to know how people can get sucked into these things when “we should know better.”
Some things that are thought to be “common sense” aren’t. And the simplistic expression, “If it looks too good to be true, it probably is,” is entirely blind to the reality that people who put together scams (especially ones as elaborate as AmQuix) KNOW that if it looks too good to be true, people won’t fall for it. Their schemes are DESIGNED to look plausible – NOT too good to be true.
Okay, so you’ve been confrontational. Here’s a possible approach:
First, you need to be somewhat humble. Be apologetic for confronting her about it. She’s hearing things that you are not, and some leeway for that void should be afforded.
Now, here’s a statement you can make that is TRUE but not exactly what it sounds like it is: “You obviously understand this business in a way that I don’t. Bad credit is OK for payday loans with guaranteed approval from www.nowguaranteed.com web service + I’m going to need some time to look at it, perhaps with you, and learn more about it.” Do you see how that can be taken more than one way? This affords you the chance to look at web sites and forums so that you might learn more about it. And if you value this relationship enough to really get after it, you’ll need to learn BOTH sides of the MLM issue – the claims and the reality.
Being involved in MLM and learning the truth during/after quitting is the surest way to get that education. But it can be a very expensive way to go about it, both in terms of finances and in your relationships. Without being involved, you have to spend some time learning about it in order to effectively communicate with someone who’s involved in it.
Always keeping “I don’t understand” ready will be a huge help. It will give you time to research. It will also give you the opportunity to hear what she’s being taught. And if what she’s being taught doesn’t jive with reality, you can say, “I don’t understand” and have an opening for explaining why what she says doesn’t make sense.
Okay, I think I’ve given you enough to work with for now. Think a little about this before you get into conversation with her again, and remember that you can’t always “be right,” even if you are right about MLM. You have to decide if you want to be right or if you want to rescue this situation and this relationship. That’s why being confrontational doesn’t work. She knows she’s right, too.
Again, best of luck.